The Polyvagal Orgasm for Women by Laura Geiger

The Polyvagal Orgasm for Women

We meet ourselves in (really great) orgasm: the physical, the emotional, the spiritual, the relational, the biological, the mental, the chemical, the alive, the profound and the mundane, the person we have been and all the possibilities of what we could be.
This course is for women who are curious about how Polyvagal Theory, neuroscience, and the somatic experience of the body can inform their approach to their sexuality. 

  • Polvagal Theory is a framework through which to understand our phylogenetic response to activation. It posits that we are wired to perceive threat or safety underneath our conscious awareness, respond to threat via a hierarchy of response (social engagement, fight/flight, freeze), and restore equilibrium through co-regulation of the nervous system (cues of safety delivered through another person's facial expression, tone of voice, posture presentation, etc.).
     In this case, The Polyvagal Orgasm means that our physiology requires safety in sex. This course is taking nervous system regulation into the bedroom to improve connection and communication, as well as the visceral and emotional feelings of orgasm. The safer our bodies think we are, the better sex feels. Science has (finally) begun to teach us the importance of feel-good sex for women.
What windows of understanding can be opened? What parts of your experience are common? How can safety improve the quality or quantity of your orgasms? How can you and your partner work together with your physiology to change the way you are connecting with each other? What is your body trying to tell you? What role does your nervous system play in your sexuality? 
Why does orgasm even matter? Isn't it just momentary physical pleasure? (Spoiler alert: no!)
Sexuality is equal parts mysterious and measurable. I'd like to keep it that way. I'm not interested in reducing orgasm down to its chemical components and leaving it there. I'm interested in letting the science empower the personal. You're not crazy for wanting more, and I can prove it.

Let's freaking do this.

What is it and how does it apply it to sexuality? Learn your own triggers. Why we need to straddle more than our partners: learning to be in more than one autonomic state at a time.

Dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, pelvic nerves, oh my! Why O is essential to a woman's health. Plus biology-based vulnerabilities and healing neural pathways of connection.

How can my stage of life and personal history affect my sense of safety, desire, and desirability? (silenced/shame, pregnancy, birth, sexual trauma, limited self-expression, religion, addiction).

More than eighteen body-based practices to cultivate safety, communication, and connection with yourself and your partner. Shake loose outdated limitations via new intimacy with your own power and truth.


  • pleasure and the patriarchy (i.e. this shit is intentional)
  • OMing
  • the problem with porn
  • 4D wheel of inquiry
  • the role of ritual
  • how to talk to your partner about all of this
  • the relationship between the diaphragm and emotion
  • integrating sexuality into the whole self
  • the link between sex and voice
  • the link between sex and creativity
  • two unlikely bedfellows: depression and rage
  • BONUS MATERIAL: the four relational pathways video from Polyvagal Partnership!

Please note that this course is for education purposes only. It is not intended to replace psychotherapy nor advice and counsel you would receive from a medical or mental health professional.

What's included?

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WEEK ONE: Polyvagal Theory and Sexuality
Welcome to the course!
43 mins
Information from slides
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Common characteristics of each state
549 KB
Common characteristics during sex with safety
453 KB
Common characteristics during sex without safety
492 KB
Track your states
168 KB
Track your states: EXAMPLE
2.37 MB
WEEK TWO: The Nature of Orgasm
Welcome to Week Two!
28 mins
Information from slides
91.7 KB
BONUS VIDEO from Polyvagal Partnership
47 mins
WEEK THREE: The Safety Toolkit
Here's what you've been waiting for!
Information from slides
74 KB
The Polyvagal Orgasm Toolkit
100 KB
Lower rez Orgasm week three.mp4
(1h 20m 25s)
WEEK FOUR: It's Complicated
Our final week!
41 mins
Information from slides
86.8 KB
4D Wheel
275 KB
4D Wheel in Action
161 KB
Review of A Sex Journal
4 mins


"I am a therapist in the US trained in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and am working through an AASECT sex therapy training program. Your Polyvagal Orgasm course is AMAZING! It has made all of the things I'm learning from both styles click together in such an organized way that it totally changes my felt sense of understanding it. I really appreciate all of the work you put into this course (and look forward to starting the Partnership course soon!)."
Andrea Bezaire, MS, LLP
"I am blown away at the depth of information, articulated in such a beautifual way! My mind is spinning with excitement, reflecting on the material and how it applies to the way I've been able to connect (or not) with others, both within and outside of sexual encounters. And not only that, but this knowledge is helping me better understand an ongoing thirty-year behavioral addiction I'm working through and how each [autonomic] state impacts it. This course will be transformative in ways I don't even know right now. I'm so incredibly excited to allow the integration to unfold into beautiful rippling shifts in my life!”
Nathalie Delorme
“Oh, to have sudden understanding of why something is the way it is! Identifying with all three of the 'little to no interest in having sex' list sounds like it would be depressing. Instead I felt a huge a-ha and lightening of my shame. Since then I feel this new information moving through me, rearranging me in deep ways that are currently surfacing as ‘unexplained’ moods that I suspect are stages of grief and also a brightening sense of gratitude. So much gratitude for this course.”
Jessica Lea