We meet ourselves in (really great) orgasm: the physical, the emotional, the spiritual, the relational, the biological, the mental, the chemical, the alive, the profound and the mundane, the person we have been and all the possibilities of what we could be.
This course is for women who are curious about how Polyvagal Theory, neuroscience, and the somatic experience of the body can inform their approach to their sexuality.
- Polvagal Theory is a framework through which to understand our phylogenetic response to activation. It posits that we are wired to perceive threat or safety underneath our conscious awareness, respond to threat via a hierarchy of response (social engagement, fight/flight, freeze), and restore equilibrium through co-regulation of the nervous system (cues of safety delivered through another person's facial expression, tone of voice, posture presentation, etc.).
In this case, The Polyvagal Orgasm means that our physiology requires safety in sex. This course is taking nervous system regulation into the bedroom to improve connection and communication, as well as the visceral and emotional feelings of orgasm. The safer our bodies think we are, the better sex feels. Science has (finally) begun to teach us the importance of feel-good sex for women.
What windows of understanding can be opened? What parts of your experience are common? How can safety improve the quality or quantity of your orgasms? How can you and your partner work together with your physiology to change the way you are connecting with each other? What is your body trying to tell you? What role does your nervous system play in your sexuality?
Why does orgasm even matter? Isn't it just momentary physical pleasure? (Spoiler alert: no!)
Sexuality is equal parts mysterious and measurable. I'd like to keep it that way. I'm not interested in reducing orgasm down to its chemical components and leaving it there. I'm interested in letting the science empower the personal. You're not crazy for wanting more, and I can prove it.
Let's freaking do this.
What is it and how does it apply it to sexuality? Learn your own triggers. Why we need to straddle more than our partners: learning to be in more than one autonomic state at a time.
THE SCIENCE OF ORGASM
Dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, pelvic nerves, oh my! Why O is essential to a woman's health. Plus biology-based vulnerabilities and healing neural pathways of connection.
WHEN LIFE HAPPENS
How can my stage of life and personal history affect my sense of safety, desire, and desirability? (silenced/shame, pregnancy, birth, sexual trauma, limited self-expression, religion, addiction).
THE SOMATIC APPROACH
More than eighteen body-based practices to cultivate safety, communication, and connection with yourself and your partner. Shake loose outdated limitations via new intimacy with your own power and truth.
TOPICS ALSO INCLUDE:
- pleasure and the patriarchy (i.e. this shit is intentional)
- the problem with porn
- 4D wheel of inquiry
- the role of ritual
- how to talk to your partner about all of this
- the relationship between the diaphragm and emotion
- integrating sexuality into the whole self
- the link between sex and voice
- the link between sex and creativity
- two unlikely bedfellows: depression and rage
- BONUS MATERIAL: the four relational pathways video from Polyvagal Partnership!
Please note that this course is for education purposes only. It is not intended to replace psychotherapy nor advice and counsel you would receive from a medical or mental health professional.